Confidence: The Only Permanent Cure For Hair Loss
You’re Angry and Hurting About Hair Loss, But No One Cares.
We live in a society of advocacy, but we live among people who lack empathy.
Every problem we face as a human population can’t be fought alone. That’s why people strive so hard to raise awareness for issues that affect them. If you’re on this page, chances are hair loss affects you and you are looking for comfort. I’m going to be straight with you because I am primarily addressing young men who need to know I understand how they feel. Are you ready?
Hair loss can be a nightmare.
A Hair Obsessed Culture that Shows little Empathy for Hair Loss
Even though I don’t condone Will Smith slapping Chris Rock, it was amazing to me how insensitive people were regarding Jada Smith’s alopecia. All too often, people on comment sections would just dismiss her condition and remark, “It’s not like her hair loss is fatal; it’s just hair.” This is exactly the lack of empathy and comments that can be expected from people who have never experienced hair loss. This lack of empathy is particularly surprising to me from the black community where women often spend hundreds on extensions and hair care and men are expected to get edge ups weekly. Of course, spending money on hair is not limited to the black community. We live in a culture that is obsessed with hair. Women, on average, spend over $55,000 on their hair over the course of their lives. Men are currently supporting a 3.4 billion dollar hair loss industry in America. Yet, few people with hair will ever take the hair loss of another as a serious issue or concern.
Why Hair Loss is Worse Than Being Overweight
Despite all the other body image or self-esteem issues people deal with, hair loss is one of the worst problems because it can’t be controlled. It’s also the worst advocated image issue for young adults and teenagers. Society feels far worse for people who are overweight.
While some overweight people have legitimate issues with their condition, most people who are overweight can control their weight to some extent by exercise and healthy eating habits. Your hair loss, on the other hand, is ninety-five percent genetic. It’s not debilitating because you have a problem; it’s debilitating because there is so little you can do and so few people understand.
Man can live about forty days without food, about three days without water, about eight minutes without air… but only for one second without hope. – Hal Lindsey
From my experiences as a young man suffering from extreme hair loss, I can tell you that people don’t care about your problem. Hair Loss won’t kill or harm you physically, so the medical community or your doctor will rarely address hair loss problems with your equal level of concern. Parents or friends who never suffered from hair loss will tell you everything is ok, but that’s like a tall guy telling a short guy not to worry about getting girls. Finally, young guys losing their hair have practically zero role models or positive reinforcement from popular culture. I can’t recall one young star in Hollywood that doesn’t sport perfect locks. Most bald guys in Hollywood are villains and the attractive bald guys are generally in their thirties and forties. This warps our thinking from the time we were children to believe that balding might be ok, just not when we are in our twenties.
Developing Confidence
The truth is a lot of guys go bald or start to recede at very young ages. Some use Propecia and Rogaine while other pursue hair transplants or scalp micoropigmentation. All treatments either partially restore, slow-down, or give the illusion of hair, but none permanently restore a full head of hair. That’s why the best of hair loss sufferers discover the true cure for baldness — confidence. Yup, that’s right. You can choose how much hair loss affects you. You can let it beat you down and consume you with worry and doubt. Or, you can choose to be confident and pursue what you want in life. It might take time and practice, but you can choose to see an attractive, bald man staring back at you in the mirror. If I can teach you anything, it’s this lesson:
The most important factor in dealing with hair loss is not how much hair is on your head but what thoughts are in your head.
After suffering from hair loss for over ten years, I can tell you the worst part was how my fear of my appearance robbed me from pursuing the goals and the women I wanted. It wasn’t until my hair loss was in its worst stages that I became confident and found the most success with women and my career. I learned there were no goals I could accomplish with hair that I couldn’t accomplish without hair. The key is to do exactly what you would do if you had hair. You would study, work hard, be social, dress well, hit the gym, and cultivate interesting hobbies. Do you know who I just described in that last sentence — an attractive man. And let me remind you, hair was not part of that equation.
I hope these words help encourage you. The key to being successful as a man is not hair, but confidence and hard work. It’s really what you’ve been taught your whole life, but it’s amazing how losing hair on the top of our heads can transform the thoughts inside or our heads. All men’s bodies change over time. If men don’t deal with image issues at an early age, some physical change eventually occurs down the road that challenges their perspective and self-esteem. It’s unfair your hair loss occurred at an early age, but you have a unique experience to master your thoughts and take control of your self-esteem. Remember, how you feel is far more powerful and influential than how you look. Take advantage of your opportunity. I wish you the best in your journey.
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